Obligately Social Does Not Necessarily Mean Sociable

Humans are obligately social, but that doesn't mean we necessarily do well around other humans. While I'm not as much of a recluse as I used to be, I still typically greatly prefer solitude to just about any social situation. The way I see it, socializing is a game with a bunch of rules that aren't written down and you just have to figure out yourself. Oh, and the rules change depending on who else is playing. And you can't just. Not play.

And this is not me suggesting everyone just be explicit about all their expectations. Because I realize that is not necessarily possible or desirable in all situations.

But I will say. There are some things that really frustrate me about the unspokenness of it all.