Conflict Aversion

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I can't help but feel very mixed feelings about my conflict aversion.  On the one hand it means I try to avoid unnecessarily escalating disagreements, which seems to me more about proving individual superiority and promoting an us vs them mentality than actually promoting any given idea to a wider audience or organizing for change.  On the other hand, how can it be good to avoid expressing an idea not because I think it's wrong, but because I'm worried about the response?  Still, I've seen plenty of people burn out on activism because they couldn't deal with the level of conflict it inevitably seems to attract, and I doubt I'm so much better at handling such conflicts than those people.  So, I mean, I want to be more active in organizing around these things that are important to me, but I'm not sure what level of such things I can actually handle or how I should go about that.