Conflict Aversion is Such a Pain
May. 11th, 2019 02:14 amI am extremely conflict-averse, probably partly because I can never imagine good things coming from conflict. I don't tend to imagine I can persuade people of anything, or that I will gain anything from it. Most of the conflicts I've experienced were ones I was either forced into or felt some kind of personal obligation involving them. I know that's something I should work on. But for me I think it's less a self-confidence issue and more a fear of failure. It's not that I think I shouldn't defend my positions or myself, but that I don't know how to do that a lot of the time and I'm worried failing at that will be worse than not trying at all. And I mean...sometimes that's true. But sometimes it's not.