Communication
May. 14th, 2021 02:43 am![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
unspeakablehorrorI always feel like communication is such a fraught thing. We must give others enough information so they can understand our meaning, but we are also expected to leave certain things unsaid for any number of reasons. Trying to balance those expectations does sometimes feel like an exercise in frustration.
At the same time, when people are just like 'but you can tell me anything' my first reaction is to think 'ah, you say that now, but would you really feel that way if someone really did just...tell you anything?' I actually don't think there's many people who would, if only because there are times when telling one anything would place overmuch burden for managing other's emotions on them. For other reasons too, but I think that's certainly a major one.
It's certainly the case that people have varying preferences for interaction, of course, which is another challenge of socializing. But even if someone doesn't want to be lied to with social niceties (which is a feeling to which I can certainly relate), that doesn't mean they can or should be expected to handle any idle emotion or thought that comes to other people. Sometimes a person realizes within a short (or long) while that these emotions or thoughts of theirs are something which they can and should resolve themselves rather than expect another person to. Or they realize it's unfair to place that burden on certain individuals.
Anyway, I don't have any momentous conclusion to draw here. I'm just considering some of the complexities of communication.
At the same time, when people are just like 'but you can tell me anything' my first reaction is to think 'ah, you say that now, but would you really feel that way if someone really did just...tell you anything?' I actually don't think there's many people who would, if only because there are times when telling one anything would place overmuch burden for managing other's emotions on them. For other reasons too, but I think that's certainly a major one.
It's certainly the case that people have varying preferences for interaction, of course, which is another challenge of socializing. But even if someone doesn't want to be lied to with social niceties (which is a feeling to which I can certainly relate), that doesn't mean they can or should be expected to handle any idle emotion or thought that comes to other people. Sometimes a person realizes within a short (or long) while that these emotions or thoughts of theirs are something which they can and should resolve themselves rather than expect another person to. Or they realize it's unfair to place that burden on certain individuals.
Anyway, I don't have any momentous conclusion to draw here. I'm just considering some of the complexities of communication.