To Be Obscure or Not to Be
Oct. 19th, 2021 12:45 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
unspeakablehorrorAttention is a thing I have such complicated feelings about. On the one hand, I want to interact with people, which is of course impossible if no one knows I exist or is inclined to interact with me. On the other hand, there is definitely such a thing for me as too much attention, and certainly such a thing as the wrong kind of attention.
I think one nice thing about not posting on Tumblr anymore is that I'm more cut off from the various harassment mobs on that site. Though that was never really a problem for me directly when I still posted there, probably largely because these mobs are often both mobilized by and used to target more popular users. Because following/picking on the big guy makes them feel powerful or whatever. Like I got individuals who would try to harass or pick fights with me occassionally but those tend to be easier to fend off than hate mobs.
It's a difficult problem, because being obscure makes some things I would like to do much more difficult, but it certainly reduces the amount of...problems I am exposed to.
I also think that while no one has total control over how well-known they are, a person's actions absolutely have an effect on that, and the effect any particular action may have is absolutely not random.
I think one nice thing about not posting on Tumblr anymore is that I'm more cut off from the various harassment mobs on that site. Though that was never really a problem for me directly when I still posted there, probably largely because these mobs are often both mobilized by and used to target more popular users. Because following/picking on the big guy makes them feel powerful or whatever. Like I got individuals who would try to harass or pick fights with me occassionally but those tend to be easier to fend off than hate mobs.
It's a difficult problem, because being obscure makes some things I would like to do much more difficult, but it certainly reduces the amount of...problems I am exposed to.
I also think that while no one has total control over how well-known they are, a person's actions absolutely have an effect on that, and the effect any particular action may have is absolutely not random.