Impersonal and Personal Caring

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I think it's very important to separate impersonal caring and personal caring.
 

On an impersonal level, I think it's important to care about how pretty much everyone is treated. To actually care about fairness, you have to be committed to defending how society treats even the people you hate. And you need to be committed to defending the truth, regardless of who it's about.
 

But on a personal level, caring needs to be much more limited. The people you devote your particular physical and emotional energies to need to be fairly few in number. You don't have to continue a relationship, regardless of type, in perpetuity--sometimes they simply don't work out. You don't have to devote the same personal energy to everyone you meet. On a personal level, you don't need to have 'good reasons' for not liking someone. Sometimes people's personalities just clash.
 

I think mixing up these two modes of caring is responsible for a lot of suffering.