Communication Woes

[unspeakablehorror]

I have a distinct problem in that I often want to communicate a very specific message but that I also often seem to lack the ability to articulate that message.  This either results in me communicating something I feel does not entirely reflect my intent, or just not saying anything at all in order to avoid mangling what I want to say.  It's really very irritating.  But sometimes, I can communicate exactly what I'm thinking and it just seems so easy.  Why can't I just be able to do that all the time?  I'd like to at least be able to understand better what the difference between the situations is, so I could maybe do something about it.

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[reg_flint]

For me it was a lack of confidence. I was afraid to say something not worthy of my capabilities, I feared coming across as mediocre, knowing I can be exceptional. A little humble pie and accepting I’m not always 100% on top of my form, that helps. I realized coding that someone else has had the same idea and did it better than me. At least with creative writing there is a bit more wriggle room.

[unspeakablehorror]

I don't think it's necessarily a lack of confidence in my case so much as a combination of other things. This is in particular because while I know I'm fairly limited in my abilities, I think that's true of everyone else, too. Different people just have different limitations.

I think sometimes I don't have the knowledge or background to express something the way I want to. But sometimes I do have that, but am lacking the energy or mental cohesiveness to put everything together the way I'd like. Specifically I'd like to write more essay-type posts about various topics, but I have particular trouble with this.

The issues I have with fiction are perhaps similar but just bother me less. I just don't worry so much about deadlines when I write stories, and I'm fairly good at fulfilling one of the most important criteria to myself, which is writing the type of story I want to read. Not that I wouldn't like other people to be able to get something valuable from my stories, but I also don't think the things I write are necessarily going to be what most other people are looking to read. Different people are looking for different things in a story, after all, and I have very specific tastes.

This is also a case where I'm not sure I can properly articulate my issue, because while I recognize there is a problem, I don't necessarily understand the problem well, and I suspect it's a combination of smaller problems all interacting together to cause the larger problem.

[reg_flint]

The only reason I have written fanfic is that the author both let me down and inspired me. I wanted to read a story they or others have not provided. Their fictional worlds charge the imagination. Their lack of my wishes for content makes me create something. I prefer working on my own stories.
The problem is an inability to solve the problem in a way that works for you? I'm not sure I follow you.

[unspeakablehorror]

Well, as I said, I often have difficulty communicating with people, so perhaps it is not surprising to not follow what I'm saying. My communication issues mean I may have certain atypical problems in this area.